On Asian Eyes and S’mores Cookie Bars

I don’t watch The Talk but I couldn’t miss all the chatter last week about Julie Chen’s big announcement. *Gasp* she had plastic surgery to make her eyes look less Asian. I’m sure you’ve all seen her before and after photos by now:

Errrrmmm…let’s be real, here.  Her eyelids aren’t the only thing that’s been worked on!  But I digress.

She was told (among other horrifying things) that she looked bored and disinterested when she was interviewing people because of her heavy lid.

Folks, this eyelid thing has been happening for a looooooong time. It’s called Asian blepharoplasty and it’s a procedure “where the skin around the eye is reshaped … [in order to] create an upper eyelid with a crease (i.e. “double eyelid”) from an eyelid that is naturally without a crease (a.k.a. “single eyelid”)” (from my favourite source of all information, Wikipedia). All my life, I’ve read articles about the prevalence of this surgery among Asians, especially in China and Korea. It helps in western society to look less “Other” and it was inevitable that our standards of beauty would infiltrate other parts of the globe.

This is certainly not the craziest thing I’ve heard of. I used to read Marie Claire magazine and years ago, they had a horrific article chronicling a leg-lengthening procedure in China.  There are height requirements for jobs (i.e. flight attendants and government positions) and even for schools!  My people are not tall, yo.  We’re a nation of shorties (the Yao Mings aside).  Women will pay tens of thousands of dollars for the most excruciating experience ever, only to elongate their legs by one to five inches in order to open the doors to opportunities that were closed to them before. The article I read stated that most surgeries only increased one’s height by about an inch.  Check out this cringe-inducing description from the MSN article What Some Women Will Do For Beauty: “Calf and shin bones are broken and pierced with steel pins, which are fixed to an external frame with screws. Then stretching — by means of turning those screws and lengthening the bone at the point where it was broken — is carried out over the next several months. The steel pins are left in for another year as support for the newly regenerated bone.”  Risks include: “misshapen legs, feet that splay outward, and bones that never heal properly and break easily.”  There’s no way in hell I’m letting someone break my legs and screw ’em back together in the hopes that I won’t be horribly disfigured and will gain an inch in height.

But then again, I had the good fortune of being born in North America, where my worth and economic status aren’t determined by my height (I’m 5’2″ meaning I’d be ineligible for a job with the Chinese foreign ministry).

Unlike Julie, I was born with a double eyelid so the only time I look bored and disinterested is when I AM bored and disinterested. In my life, I’ve faced more adversity based on the fact that I’m a woman than the fact that I’m Chinese but that doesn’t mean I haven’t felt the effects of racism. I remember riding transit one day when I was a teenager and an older Caucasian gentlemen pointed at me and my friends and said very loudly, “Korean, Chinese, Japanese, it all sounds the same to me.” Ummmm…we were standing there speaking English. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, buddy.

Or the time I was walking in Chinatown and the light changed for me and the other pedestrians to cross the street. As we were stepping off the curb, a car ripped a right turn right in front of us, narrowly missing a few bodies and the driver yelled out of his window “fucking Chinks.” Stay classy, asshole.

I’ve been asked numerous times by both clients and fellow lawyers whether I’m the Chinese interpreter. Ummm, I’m wearing a full suit, clutching a stack of files and sitting in front of the bar WITH all the other lawyers in open court, so, no, I’m not the interpreter. Nor am I the court clerk – one genius approached me and asked if I were the secretary with whom they needed to sign in. Nope, not me. I actually went to school to get my law degree and passed the bar, mmm’kay. Thanks.

Julie Chen needed to do what she did in order to further her career. Especially back then. Because while it’s gotten a heck of a lot better for visible minorities, it’s still messy out there so I can’t imagine how many no’s and roadblocks Julie (or as I like to call her, Jules, because we’re tight) faced.

Y’know what makes me feel better about the world? S’mores cookie bars.
S’mores Cookie Bars (adapted from Baking Bites)

3/4 cup unsalted butter, room temperature
1/4 cup brown sugar
1/4 cup sugar
1 large egg
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 cup all purpose flour
1/3 cup whole wheat flour
1 cup graham cracker crumbs (I ground about 11 graham cookies in my food processor)
1 tsp baking powder
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 tsp cinnamon (optional)
1 cup chocolate chips
1 to 2 bars of dark chocolate (depends on how much chocolate you want)
1 1/2 cups marshmallow creme/fluff (not melted marshmallows)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Line an 8-inch square baking pan with parchment paper.

In a large bowl or the bowl of your stand mixer, cream together the butter and sugars until light and fluffy. Beat in the egg and vanilla.

In a small bowl, combine the flour, graham cracker crumbs, baking powder, cinnamon and salt. Add it to the butter mixture and mix at a low speed until combined. Add the chocolate chips. Divide the dough in half and press half of dough into an even layer in your pan. Break up your bar of chocolate and press the pieces into the cookie dough.

Here's my baking assistant, Abby.

Here’s my baking assistant, Abby.

Spread the marshmallow creme/fluff over top and then dot the remainder of the cookie dough overtop.
Bake for 30 to 35 minutes, until lightly browned. Cool completely before cutting into bars. I pressed some broken up graham crackers into the top and sprinkled on more chocolate chips immediately after removing the pan from the oven for a nicer presentation.
Oh baby, are these good. I dug in about four hours after baking them and they were super gooey, melty, sticky…everything a perfect S’mores should be. There’s not much sugar in the recipe so it’s not too sweet, especially since I used a dark chocolate bar. There’s a slight hint of cinnamon that plays beautifully with the caramel tones of the graham cracker flavour of the cookie.
I may or may not have shovelled this into my mouth after I finished taking these photos.

49 thoughts on “On Asian Eyes and S’mores Cookie Bars

  1. Nancy, YES. Just yes. I was waiting for someone to point out that the eyelid crease surgery is about the newest thing since sliced bread — and probably the first plastic surgery I’d ever heard of as a child, way before boob jobs or nose jobs or botox. It’s a reality, too, that newscasting and the media industry are simply industries in which looks matter. The simple fact that she chose to change her looks in a way that happened to be race-specific does not mean that she should be subject to any more criticism than any other person who chooses to alter their bodies. (Not to suggest that people do deserve criticism for making those choices.) Like you said, she did what she felt she had to do to get ahead (and got ahead). And that’s her decision to make.

    And I’m so sorry to hear about your own experiences with racism. I don’t have any work-related stories yet, but here’s a law school one I know you’ll appreciate — I took an Advanced Legal Writing class in my 2L year where we had weekly meetings with the prof to discuss our writing. This is what my professor told me about a brief I handed in, to my face: “Your writing is still not assertive enough. I know that to a certain degree it is cultural, but you have to overcome that.” I was like WAIT I MUST BE MISUNDERSTANDING THIS. There’s no way that that means what I think it means. (But it did.) Pretty benign in the long run, but a good reminder that stereotypes lurk in many more covert forms than outright hatred.

    Lastly, THESE S’MORES COOKIES BARS!!!!!! Omfg. And that is all. ❤

    • OMG my mouth literally dropped open when I read your comment. Your prof said WHAT?! You’ve got to be kidding me. I mean, seriously dude, even if you’re thinking it, DO.NOT.SAY.IT. Because he obviously thinks that all Asian girls are taught to be submissive, right?! Like that whole Madam Butterfly/Miss Saigon/Oriental stereotype. Ugh. This goest to show that it doesn’t matter how much formal education one gets. I read an article today that everyone’s hating on Julie Chen for selling out her race. People, please. I don’t believe in plastic surgery but that’s my own view. No one should be able to judge her for the choice she made. At least she’s being open about it. And yes, these s’mores cookie bars are the bomb! Thanks for your comments, girl.

      • Hahaha right?! I realized I didn’t say what gender or age this esteemed prof was — but I’m sure you knew immediately. He was a former partner at a huge firm too. Just smh. Thanks for your awesome post!

  2. Cheezus! Sometimes I just want to grab people and give ’em a good shake. I should say something more profound, but I cannot. I’ve got nothing. I’m exasperated with the idiots/racists of the planet.

    You, I like.

    These S’mores Bars? I like.

    Abby? Don’t get me started…

  3. Quite frankly, this was the most enlightening piece of information I’ve read anywhere on the whole “jules” thing and it was a nice and informative read. I have heard of that awful leg lengthening surgery and seriously my body shudders whenever I do. No way. Ever.
    I completely understand why she did it, and sometimes we have to do things (whether it’s surgery or not) that are not popular with the masses to get ahead in life, because otherwise we never will be. I hate that you have had those experiences in your career, the stereotyping is just awful and truly makes me upset to hear or witness. You’re one of the smartest gals I know, and it takes a blind idiot before they realize it. In fairness, it tells a lot about a person who walks up to someone and says the things you’ve heard. There is a different way to get the answers you want, rather than sharing your ingrained stereotyping idiocy to those around you. But as we know, as a whole people just aren’t that smart. But you are, and you are strong and vibrant and beautiful and I’m glad to call you a friend. And I’m NOT just kissing up to get some of those s’mores cookie bars, though I totally wouldn’t turn my nose up at them. Besides you showed my baby in that one picture .. I love her. She looks like I would if I was watching you bake, staring intently at the finished product, seriously considering face planting myself into the pan. Please give her hugs from me.

    • You always leave the best comments, Nicole. Thanks for being such a supportive friend! Thankfully all the incidents I’ve experienced are relatively harmless and I can laugh them off. I can’t imagine how it would feel to actually have my race (or sex or looks etc) be a deciding factor in what opportunities are available to me. It’s a luxury that not everyone has. As for Abby, she certainly tries to face plant into my food (when I’m foolish enough to leave it somewhere she can get at it). I’ll definitely give her a giant hug for you!

  4. I swear, the world is full of a$sholes. Don’t get me started. I don’t know where I’ve been, because I hadn’t heard about Julie. ‘Course, I watch her on Big Brother, not The View, so…

    Now, I would like you to make me a pan of these pronto. I’ll bring the booze, and we’ll catch up (because yes, I’m bordering on as$hole status myself…it’s been so long since I’ve stopped by to let you know how awesome you are)!

  5. Omg I knew I would love this post just from the title and you did not disappoint. Like girlichef ^, I don’t know where I’ve been either because I hadn’t heard about Julie but wow. That is quite the before/after pic. Still, if that’s all she had to do to get ahead, go Julie! Better than sleeping your way to the top. It’s a shame that she was under pressure to change her appearance but really–what’s new in our country.

    The other day I was at a bar and some guy’s fantastic opening line was “So…are you Vietnamese?” No, a-hole, I’m not. Why do people feel like they can ask “what kind of Asian are you?” Like, what kind of white are YOU? In fact, it was basically this exchange: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWynJkN5HbQ. I don’t know why sometimes getting asked that bothers me a whole lot more than other times but it’s just SO annoying when they’re like “where are you from?” “California.” “No but I mean where is your family from?” Well technically my dad is from Indonesia because his parents immigrated there and my mom is from Southern California but her parents were from Hong Kong and the Mainland where my dad’s ancestors were also from and I wouldn’t mind explaining this to you if you hadn’t opened the conversation based on what you thought was my heritage and stop STARING AT ME YOU WEIRDO!

    End rant. Also, I WANT THESE BARS.

    • Erika, you hadn’t heard of it because you’re spending your time on worthwhile things as opposed to me, spending all my free time reading celebrity gossip sites on the internet! Yeah, there’s a lot I hate about how people treat me because I’m clearly a minority. When people hear my last name (which isn’t common), they immediately ask me if I’m related to so-and-so who has the same last name. I mean, really? You think we all come from the same village or something? Or how people tell me about someone they know who’s also Chinese who do weird things (an ex-assistant of mine actually told me that she used to live next door to the loveliest Chinese family who would cut the heads off of living chickens for dinner). I’ve definitely been asked if I’m Vietnamese-Japanese-Korean. You totally should’ve gone into that long rant with that dude. Give him an earful! “Where are you from?” “California.” That’s gold! Definitely not the answer he was looking for. He was expecting you to say that you grew up on a rice paddy, rode a panda (or a dragon!) onto a boat and sailed across the Pacific to the land of opportunities.

  6. I remember reading about the eyelid surgery when it first became popular and thinking why? why would someone do that to themselves and doesn’t it hurt like hell? Also the leg lengthening just gave me the shivers, brrrr. No thanks, but errr yeah I’m tall. Let’s just give everyone your s’mores cookie bars, it will make this world a better place.

    • Think of all the little Asian women who marvel at your glorious height, wishing they were more like you! All it takes are a few broken bones and months of excruciating pain. Skeery, isn’t it?

  7. Oh my dear, I’m so sorry you had to endure the world’s ignorance. It’s so frustrating that people can’t just be accepted and valued for being born exactly how they are. When I was a kid, I remember hearing about leg-lengthening surgery and growth hormones (ack!) to be taller. I was so upset about being short that I asked my mom to get a bone scan to see how tall I would grow up to be. Needless to say, the results must not have been promising, as my mom never brought it up. Personally, I think you’re fantastic. Not because of your race, or because you’re short or because you have an adorable dog (though, let’s be real, that last one is like the icing on the cake!). You’re wonderful because you’re compassionate, funny and a good person. All the rest are just bonuses to make you uniquely you! xo

    • Thanks, Kelly! Everything you just said I feel the same way about you. And we can be shorties together. Ain’t no shame in that. Your mom must’ve thought you were bonkers for bringing it up! Good call on her part for not encouraging you 😉

  8. I was absolutely floored listening to Julie Chen talk about how (and I am paraphrasing) her whole life changed following having double eyelid surgery. Although I can appreciate that racism was even more rampant earlier in her career, but seriously, should a statement be made that suggests that a person’s life will be turned around and that opportunities will start making their way to her following plastic surgery? I think the message that this is sending to young women is like a punch in the gut especially since a significant proportion of young women suffer from body image issues. Imagine trying to convince a young girl that it’s not true, that she still is unlikely to be noticed and become a big TV or movie star. What happened to Heidi Montag, the woman who had ten plastic surgeries in one day? She was in the spotlight for a short while, and spent so much money trying to make herself a “perfect” Barbie doll, and ended up facing financial ruin. This is definitely not something to aspire too. And, that’s my rant for the day.

    Onto the s’mores you made…. wow, they look absolutely delicious! You are a master baker, Nancy!!

    • Heidi Montag looks terrifying now! You can rant away, Gis, cause I feel the same way. For some reason though, I can’t hate on Julie Chen for what she did. I think it’s because I relate to her as a visible minority. In show business, looking too different from the stereotypical, western ideal of beauty will hold you back. If you look at many of the minorities in movies and t.v., they are stunningly good looking. You have to be really extraordinary to make it. And thanks for the “master baker” comment. You made my day!

  9. THAT SHIT (excuse my language) IS RIDICULOUS. I was literally talking to some girls I babysit the other day about how silly I find it that in Asian culture they so often seem to want to look Caucasian and I’m like “You guys are beautiful the way you are!” Esp. a height requirement in a culture that has many petite people, that makes 0 sense to me. I’m 5 feet tall, I’d be screeeewed. Racism in general is always just awful, I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that crap hun. I love youuuu

    And s’mores bars. I mean…obviously. They’re beautiful. So are you 🙂

    • When I was in high school, all the Asian girls (myself included) were dying their hair blonde and wearing blue contact lenses. Because that was considered beautiful and looking so utterly Chinese was not (in our minds). Isn’t it insane? We looked straight up crazy. Girl, you’re only 5 feet? You’re tiny! I could probably pick you up and spin you over my head! Hmmm…I shouldn’t write a post about how crappy racism is and then make mean height-ism comments. Don’t worry – I joke about my hobbit-esque height all the time. Thanks for your awesome comments, babe! You really brightened up my day!

      • Lol aw! No I actually like being picked up, one of my fave things about being short lol :p plus like heightism…whatevs. Not a biggie. Nothing is ever mean or just awful like racism is. Blechity blech blech. I adore you completely as you are ❤

  10. What I find odd is that the eyelid surgery, as you so rightly point out, is most popular in Korea and China where one would have thought they are not bombarded with an image of beauty that doesn’t look like them. After all, Chinese and Korean cinema and television are thriving businesses! (We used to watch Korean soap operas in Singapore. Like all soap operas, talk about funny! but that’s a different story altogether.) And yet, on every store in every country in Asia, there are also whitening creams for skin that promote the same “I want to be Caucasian” look. Why? Why? What makes pasty white pretty? I submit, nothing! And then you have the white folks who are endangering their stupid lives by trying to get tanned. Why the hell can’t we all just be happy with how we look and see the beauty in every face? And then just when I thought I’d heard everything: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/12/vagina-bleaching-ad_n_1420825.html Whaaat?

    Meanwhile, your s’mores cookie bars are just the perfect blend of colors, Nancy. I am sorry you’ve had to deal with ignorance and as$holes. But we love you exactly as you are. Hope that helps a little.

    • Omg Stacy, I laughed so hard at your comment. It’s all true. The world is insane! Vaginal bleach, what the what?! I’d heard of women reconstructing their vaginas as a way of re-virginizing themselves but bleaching it? Crazy town. It took me a long time to come to terms with how I look. Like I just said in reply to Kayle’s comment, it was the rage in high school for Asian girls to bleach their hair blonde and wear blue contact lenses. I used to want to look like Barbie when I was a kid because that’s what I grew up believing was the ideal standard of beauty. But you’re right, most people suffer from believing the grass is greener on the other side. Thank you for your wonderful comments, Stacy!

  11. I just want to say there are a lot of ignorant people out there in the world and I’m referring to the comments that were given to you back in the day. I take offense to this because I too, was made fun of because of my Asian side. FYI: my father is half Chinese.

    My Chinese features are not dominant but people seem to “think” they suddenly see the Asian part of me once they know what my last name is, which by the way is Chong. But really?! C’mon I come across this ALL the time, even till today. I don’t take offense to having any Asian features, hell sometimes I wish I had some such as they’re hair and complexion. But it’s the comments and assumptions that are made that gets me upset and people can be so mean about it.

    If it’s any consolation, I’ve been told, having an Asian last name has benefitted me in getting jobs when I’ve faxed my resumes. Even my bf seems to think so as well and he’s Chinese. The reason for this is the stereotype that Asians are smart, money hungry yadda yadda… and business owners would want this kind of person on their team. But then when I walk in the room and they see a Hispanic looking girl, they think they’ve gotten the wrong person…HAHAHA (tricked ya!) But in general I guess it’s worked out in my benefit? I’ve always gotten the job.

    However, my point is, some people are just dumb. They think they know but they have no idea. And it’s ashame people have to take drastic measures to have another image to get the job. If it’s something they’ve wanted personally on their own, then by all means, go for it. And for the record, there’s a HUGE difference between Chinese, Koreans, Japanese and all other Asian ethnicities! (I know you know this, but felt like I had to say it again) 🙂 Ok I think I’m done venting now.

    Did I mention your s’mores cookie bar is off the chain?! I just wanna stuff my face in it!

  12. Nancy,
    When I was a teen. . the eye lid surgery was the craze. . all my friends were doing it.. some of my friends used to tape scotch tape on their eyelids to create the crease? Yes, seriously. I was never into that. Not b/c I didn’t want bigger eyes and longer eye lashes. . I DID! but maybe b/c I did not want to go through the surgery. . and some friends came out looking great and others, not so much. I’ve heard about the elongating legs thing. . freaking crazy.
    One thing I’m actually worried/concerned about re: moving to the Midwest (and this might sound weird) but I never want my girls to be embarrassed that they are Korean or look different. they will be going to schools and we will be living in an area that is 99% white. VERY different from what we are used to. Madison is like 20-25 min away. . and there’s more diversity there. . but again, in the town we will be living in. . we will probably be one of five Asian families living there and I am not even joking. Anyway, I digress. . I am a mother now and want to teach my girls that they are beautiful just the way they are and I want them to embrace and love the fact that they are Korean. 🙂 love this post, yo!
    ps: I’m 5 2″ too! 🙂

  13. No matter what side of the street you are on, we women always have issues and it IS true that there’s a lot of racism and not everyone is super confident to deal with the way we were born. I’ve seen the most gorgeous women obsess about minor details. Having surgery is as much a choice as any other thing, and I’m fine with everyone doing what they want, like starting with botox in their 20’s… But offensive comments are a completely different situation and should never be allowed. About those bars… I wonder if you can send them half way around the world? And maybe you can send Abby for a few days too, she’s SOOOOO adorable. I’m seriously thinking of getting one, even though I never had a small dog before.

  14. I was shocked when I saw the picture of Julie and then surprised that I somehow never realized she’d had plastic surgery before when I watch her all the time on Big Brother. I don’t really have an opinion on it one way or another as it’s her decision and she seems to think it was the right one, but it’s sad that people are told those sorts of things, and worse to hear some of the things you’ve experienced in your daily life that I didn’t think still happened nowadays! I’m always surprised and so sad when I hear anything to do with racism, I just can’t believe people can think those ways. I don’t know if you watch Big Brother but there was a contestant who said a lot of racist things in the house and Julie totally called her out on it and even read out all the things she had said on live tv in front of her, which she was completely not expecting. It was so awkward to watch but also so satisfying, so I love Julie for that!
    Anyways these smores bars are amazing of course, and I love that you used dark chocolate to make them less sweet!

  15. Due to my little one, I’ve been largely unaware of this most recent “surgery scandal”. Gosh, it is so frustrating that we’re still circling around the same issues. It makes me sad…and I hope I can inspire Lucy to live her life with acceptance and courage. But you know, these bars sure do make me happy. As do your words and your thoughts. Thank you for sharing it all with us today.

  16. Thanks for sharing all that- it is ridiculous what some people assume. I am sorry you have to deal with that. I was actually recently talking to someone about being stereotyped as a woman in general but also more so with my passion for beer and my future career of mechanical engineering- people can say or assume some stupid things..

    I think it is so ridiculous that people do that surgery!! I am in the biomedical field so I had already heard of it but it just disgusts me. I “know” (watched a video) one guy that got it done talked about how he did it to get more women- after “growing” a few inches he got all kinds of dates. Seems like a pretty shitty reason. If the woman only cares about your height then I am going to say it will not be anything substantial. Way to change the mood though with those s’mores!! They look SO good!! 😀

  17. Oh Nancy. I hate that this exists. I hate how wrapped up our society is in looks. I hate that you’ve had people say such awful things to you. I hate that folks have been closed off from opportunities just because of the way they look. Arrrrrrrgh. Sometimes I need stuff like that to fire up that anger in me over injustices like this. It’s not okay. And we can all do something to make it better. Like bake smores bars and give them to our neighbors. I’ll start there.

  18. How cute is Alice…love what she wrote about teaching her girls they are gorgeous in all their Korean beauty. As a mom of a middle schooler, I’m now in the position of reminding my daughter she is beautiful just the way she is. I hear more convos about beauty now than ever before. Paula’s comment about people having botox in 20’s is true. I saw a 20/20 special about a plastic surgeon/father and his daughters both had plenty of work done by him (I believe they were still under 25 when most of it happened). I also saw a 20/20 special about the people elongating their legs. Both extremely disturbing shows to watch. So about people asking if you were the interpreter…oh, boy! Ridiculous. But you know what?Your bars are ridiculous. Crazy good ridiculous and Abby looks pretty happy just being near that tray. Love this happy recipe!

  19. I must be living in a hole…I haven’t heard of this surgery…and it all sounds like craziness to me. I wish our world didn’t put so much pressure for everyone to be the same. Anyhoo…Abby and I BOTH want seconds of these fantastic bars. And I CANNOT wait to meet you. Unfortunately, we have to leave for the airport at 4 AM tomorrow. Ugh…I’ll be a chipper one 🙂

  20. I had a Japanese roommate in college. She was lovely and I miss her so much. One night we stayed up late and she told me about all the cruel, yet true things that women do to their own bodies in her country just for beauty and for bigger opportunities. She told me about the eyelid crease surgery and I couldn’t believe it! It was the first time I had heard of such a thing! I wondered how that could be true, but then again, we live in a superficial and cruel world that pressures beautiful women to do stupid things. It’s so disturbing. Racism is so evil and unfortunately there are still mean and horrible people out there who support racism and violence. I wish they would just all leave. Nobody would ever miss them. Sometimes I think there is no hope for our world, but then I look at these S’more Cookie Bars and at people who are as sweet as you, and I think again.

  21. Love this article darlin. As much of a complete banana I am, I’ve gone through the whole racist remarks as well. Not fun but they’ve made me grow as a person. Just makes me laugh sometimes at how some peeps can be such ignorant bastards. They all live a sad sad life. They probably don’t have anybody that can make them S’more cookies that’s why! 😉

  22. I have to chuckle because you’re the first person I’ve heard point out that her eyelids are not the only thing that’s been worked on. I think the nose job makes her look way more different than the eyelid job!

    Sorry to hear about the racist and sexist attitudes you’ve had to deal with. Some people are just totally ignorant. My husband is a minority (Jewish), and he’s put up with all sorts of crap about that, but also about the fact that he’s darker-complected. I used to get teased mercilessly for being pale (irony). Also, freckly, skinny (now I wish!), flatchested, smart, and creative (“you make me sick” is not a compliment). When I was an architect I was almost never given proper respect (until I proved myself & my knowledge) because I was a young woman working in a male-dominated field. I almost wonder if whatever thing makes you stand out from whatever crowd you happen to be in, is the thing that will bring you discrimination.

    On another note, s’mores are the best thing ever, except for maybe chocolate chip cookies, and you’ve managed to combine the two in the most mouthwatering way! Your pics are gorgeous and so’s your pooch! So happy to have met you at IFBC! 😀

  23. This shows how sheltered I am…. I didn’t even know there were such surgeries, and for the life of me can’t understand why our wold is so fucked up (pardon my language) that women would go through these lengths for such shallow reasons. Makes me incredibly sad.

    This post was amazing and so well written. And these s’more bars…. look ridiculous. YUM.

    PS boooooo I should be with you right now in Seattle. BUMMING!!!

  24. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through awful racial things!!! My mama taught me to love and accept anyone and everyone and that we are all equal and unique. Sadly, not very many people are taught that nowadays! You are beautiful and wonderful!! And so are these cookie bars, sheesh!! I could eat more of them than I’d like to admit!! 😉

  25. Yikes! I heard/saw the pictures, but the whole leg lengthening thing is crazy!! I could not imagine that, and that someone thinks they have to go through all that just to get a job/be accepted is horrible. That aside, the bars look delicious!

  26. I could totally relate to this post. I can pretty much separate the asshole cops, lawyers, and general public from the decent ones when they come to see me and ask to speak to someone who can actually help them. I can spend hours bitching about how infuriating it is that us women work so hard, and yet still face so much adversity. It is nuts, and incredibly I hear a lot of crap from other women. In the end we just have to kick some real ass and see who is laughing–nothing motivates me more than assholes!

  27. I’m totally oblivious to pop culture, so I didn’t know that about Jules’ eye lids. Or that Asians in general even got the surgery done. I did hear about the leg lengthening thing, and you couldn’t pay me a gazillion dollars to go through that. I’m sorry to hear about the racism you experienced, especially with work. I don’t experience racism, but I do experience sexism. After all, I do work in a male dominant career at a male dominate company. Before I go ranting on and on about that, I think you should give me some s’mores bars to shut me up 😉

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  29. nancy… court interpreter??? i’m kind of dying of laugther a little bit, gad people are DAFT! i have dealt with all of the racism you noted above! there was a time when i was much younger that i wished i wasn’t chinese … but now, i am so happy to be who i am! now i wish i wasn’t a chinese school drop-out in grade 7! that before and after picture of you is amazing, by the way. KIDDING!!! (but seriously, yes, she looks like she got a lot of work done indeed!) yay to strong asian women bakers! 🙂

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